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How to start finding yourself again

Have you ever felt lost or had moments in life where your direction seems obscure? Feel like you have been through so much with breast cancer, treatments, or even just life as a whole? Well, believe it or not sometimes you must lose yourself to find "you" again. Maybe you feel confident with what you are doing one day, but feel totally conflicted the next. You may see a clear path ahead, but you can easily disappear from view with some of the circumstances you face. We all approach things differently in life and what makes us feel happy can change suddenly.

It is ok! It happens from time to time so don't beat yourself up about it. Lord knows it has happened to me plenty. This is really just a part of life however, you can pull out of the trenches and find your way back to where you should be. The worst thing you can do is hold back.


First and foremost, you can’t ever climb out of the hole you’ve found yourself in if you try to suppress your feelings. To get to know yourself again, you have to walk through the darkness, not avoid it. You might not see the point in evaluating your feelings, but to get anywhere in life, you have to become aware of how you feel. Your emotions at any given time can tell you a lot about your current situation and can serve as the catalyst for change.

So when you feel lost, go deep within and learn to listen to your feelings. Your intuition always serves your highest good but, you just have to learn how to be tuned into it.


You can’t ever find yourself again if you don’t trust both yourself and the process of knowing yourself. At some point in life, all of us will lose touch with ourselves in some manner. The key to finding ourselves once again, however, is to believe in ourselves and know that we have everything we need in order to thrive. If you turn your back on yourself and the faith you have in your abilities, where else will you turn?

Remember, the most important relationship you have in life is the one with yourself because you can never run away from yourself. So, learning how to trust your inner voice and intuition will go a long way in finding yourself once again.


When you feel lost, try to remember what truly makes you happy. Get outside and get fresh air, join a gym or yoga studio, work in the garden, or do any activity that brings a smile to your face. Simply doing these little things that make our hearts happy can dispel any feelings of hopelessness that might creep up. As humans, we naturally worry about if we’re living “the right way,” but just keep in mind that everything is subjective. I know there is a lot going on right now and we are limited to where we can go but you must be creative. There is no rule book to life. We get to create it as we go along. So, it only makes sense to use our time wisely and to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion whenever we feel lost. Oftentimes, we feel lost because we’ve taken a wrong turn somewhere in life so, going down the wrong path can usually help us to find the right one eventually.


Why not shake things up a bit and get out of that boring daily routine? As contradicting as it sounds, you can easily lose yourself inside the mundane and familiar. Inside our comfort zones, we can start to lose touch with our spirit, with what makes us truly come alive.

We all need some variety every once in a while, and who knows, maybe by learning a new skill or keeping ourselves occupied with new activities, we can reinvent ourselves and become even better than the person we once knew.


The easiest way to start feeling lost and alone is to engage in negative thoughts. That voice inside your head telling you that you can’t accomplish something and won’t ever find your way in life only exists because your ego feels too scared to actually let go. So, to quiet your ego, you need to feed your soul. You need to breathe in the good, breathe out the bad, and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.

Easier said than done, but starting out the day with just one positive affirmation can put things into perspective and get rid of those pesky, nagging negative thought patterns. Look into doing daily affirmations. You can find ones you like online and simply tell them to yourself, in the mirror, first thing in the morning, and right before you go to bed.

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